The Exact Nature of Our Wrongs

The Exact Nature of Our Wrongs

Did anyone really enjoy their fifth step?

The "admitted to ourselves, another human being and our higher power the exact nature of our wrongs” is a difficult one and it's certainly caused more than one program to go offtrack. Can't we just admit the exact nature of our wrongs just to ourselves? Or just to our higher power?Or we want to fudge with the “exact nature of our wrongs” part. Can't we just admit the general nature of our wrongs? Or just admit we messed up a lot? But there's wisdom in the program here. It's human nature (well, my human nature, I can't speak for yours) to excuse ourselves, to see what we can get away with. We want to know, how close we can walk to the edge without falling down the abyss; how close we can come to running a red light, by gunning through the yellow light; how close we can go to the bar without going in.

But the fifth step is all about accountability. Although one of our primary points of accountability is to ourselves, the cunning, baffling nature of our disease demands accountability not only to ourselves, but often to the whole fellowship. Even though the ultimate accountability of course is to our higher power (my higher power is a cheese sandwich, I don't really do the god thing) we need other humans to help keep us on track. We especially need other program people who won't put up with our nonsense or let us make excuses for our behavior.