February 2012

Why Do We Love Candy Finnegan So Much?

Like anyone experienced with addiction and addiction issues, I have reservations about the television show Intervention, as I do with all reality tv. It's hard to know where helping stops and exploitation begins, and how effective the actual intervention process is, since we see only carefully edited clips of what actually happened.

At the same time, it's really hard to turn off an episode of Intervention once you hear the beginning sequence and, you can find yourself thinking, hey, I can stop anytime I want. In fact a recent video by Fred Armisen on Funny Or Die parodied this exact situation, calling for an Intervention Intervention.

Part of the draw is the dramatic arc. Another part of the draw, for me at least, is watching a family come together and decide that they really need to take a stand and taking that stand with what often seems like a lot of love. It's true that there is always at least one relative that is just a big jerk, and there's no specific recovery process for that so it often goes unaddressed and that on certain episodes it has seemed like the problem is the family less than the addiction. This only furthers my interest, since the whole thing seems pretty hit or miss despite what one would think was pretty intentional editing.

Share the Care

Managing the Community in Times When Extra Help Is Needed

I suppose it's not altogether surprising that as an adult of child of an alcoholic I'm often get so busy taking care of others, that I forget to take care of myself. In fact, it seems like “learning self care and care for others that doesn't diminish you” is practically the backbone of most al-anon recovery work. This is why I recommend the book Share the Care for anyone with a history of family alcoholism who is then thrown into any kind of intense caregiving situation.

Journey to the Heart

A Classic With Something To Say

I read Melodie Beattie's companion books on codependency when I first started my process of therapy and program to try and figure out how not to duplicate the mistaken I saw other people in my chock full of alcoholics family make. The books have stayed on the market and I hear people talk about them at meetings event now, I believe there have been some updates and new editions but the basic information stayed the same. I'd read it all. Sure, there was lots more to practice than I could get from one or two or even three or four readings, but the information itself was no longer new to me.